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In the spirals of my mind

Memories have power. They can slide in from left field with no warning, evoking intense emotions and leave you in a completely different space, whether uplifted or flat on the floor in a puddle of tears. I saw a photo this morning of one of my children as a baby. It triggered a chain reaction … Continue reading In the spirals of my mind →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment May 12, 2022 3 Minutes

Hidden Pain

Sometimes the things that come for free are the hardest to obtain. Love, respect, honesty, friendship. In my line of work, I am entering the busiest time of year and with that comes the handling of clients with complaints. As with all of these, some of these are unfounded complaints and others are legitimate. Either … Continue reading Hidden Pain →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment November 1, 2019 3 Minutes

Serenity – the elusive butterfly

I started this post in the middle of last week and then just didn't finish it. My original thought was to post on the serenity that I am finding more and more often. Then that serenity disappeared in a puff of smoke - burned by the demands of work; the busy times with children; a … Continue reading Serenity – the elusive butterfly →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment October 22, 2019 3 Minutes

And then there was one

Here I sit, two weeks post-divorce, wondering what the hell happened. There were so many people that told me it was a time for celebration, but it didn't feel like that for me. I felt the sting of the loss of the hopes and dreams I had had for this relationship. I felt the weight … Continue reading And then there was one →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment September 1, 2019 5 Minutes

Strength. Or lack of it.

Where to from here? This reverberates around my brain often. Which step to take next. Which direction to follow. Which idea to chase down. Which memory to put into perspective. What will be of benefit? What will help me most? What will help my kids most? I find it difficult to distinguish the "right" way … Continue reading Strength. Or lack of it. →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment July 29, 2019 5 Minutes

The Visceral Response

I have found over time that a direct result of abuse is the visceral response that I have to the words being said and / or shouted at me. And it doesn't just have to be my usual perpetrators. It is both the tone and the language employed by the other party that can set … Continue reading The Visceral Response →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment March 30, 2019March 30, 2019 3 Minutes

The End of an Era

And here it is - 31 December 2018. It is the ending of a tumultuous year. It has been a year of massive change, huge highs and lows and much growth for me. I can categorically say thank goodness the year is over. It sucked. On a level of one to ten, I would give … Continue reading The End of an Era →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment December 31, 2018December 31, 2018 6 Minutes

Tired of Being Tired

I am not alone with the struggle of not being good enough. It is a repeated theme in conversations that I am privy to and seems to touch humans in general in some way or another. Sometimes it is big - a deep-seated belief of being completely unworthy of love or any form of kindness … Continue reading Tired of Being Tired →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized 2 Comments November 30, 2018 4 Minutes

Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

I grew up in a household where sex was a taboo subject. In fact any discussion about the human body which might pertain to reproduction in any form, was taboo. We used to squirm when they even kissed in a movie, as that would invite a reproving look on my mother's face. I remember well … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Sex Baby →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized Leave a comment November 27, 2018November 27, 2018 8 Minutes

Running Away

I do love the open road - the freedom of driving long distances has appealed to me for many years. I love the time it gives me to contemplate, without being distracted by the multitude of things I contend with every day. I like that I can focus only on one thing and to some … Continue reading Running Away →

bulawayogirl Uncategorized 1 Comment November 2, 2018November 2, 2018 4 Minutes
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